The Confidence You Didn’t Know You Needed

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t show up in stat lines or highlight reels—confidence.

Not the kind you feel when you're on a hot streak or when everything clicks. I’m talking about the kind that shows up when nothing feels right. When your timing’s off, your body’s tired, and your heart’s not even sure why you’re still showing up.

I’ve lived through that.

There were seasons when I walked into practice already doubting myself. Times when I was more afraid of being seen than being cut. Times I silently begged not to be called on. I’ve questioned whether I even belonged anymore—on the team, in the game, in the space I once called home.

But here’s what I learned:

Confidence isn’t a spark. It’s a rebuild.

You don’t wait for it to show up. You lay the bricks, one rep at a time, even when it feels like you’re just going through the motions.

It took walking away from the field to realize that. When I started DR3 Fastpitch, I wasn’t chasing perfection—I was chasing purpose. I wasn’t stepping into coaching because I had all the answers. I stepped in because I remembered what it felt like to forget who I was.

Now I coach girls who are going through the same thing. And I remind them:

You don’t have to feel confident to keep showing up.
You just have to keep showing up to build confidence.

That’s how you take it back.